My BFF once told me that we needed to have some boundaries. At the time, I was a bit taken aback.
I guess I did not comprehend that he was actually doing me a solid.
By placing me in a ‘quarantine’, my BFF was actually making sure that I grow up and become an adult who takes ownership of his own life, with the good and the bad.
You see, most people, even our blood, our kin, our immediate family, and especially our friends who are in it for non-biblical reasons, care about us, and that is why they want us to get the message.
Sometime, we are too much.
I, for one, have come to see this. I realized for some time now, that I am ‘too much’ for my friends.
And while when my BFF communicated this to me, I took it rather personally, resenting both the message as well as the messenger, I have come to understand what I just told my friend.
I told him that I am sure he would have wished for me to come to this realization on my own.
And he acknowledged that yes, it would have been much better if I had. But still, we are BFF to this day because while as the saying goes “the coin may drop slower with me, it still does drop after a while.”
And that’s the whole point of this story about boundaries.
People need them. We all do. And when and if we think we don’t, we still do. We may think otherwise.
But boundaries are there to bring us together without crashing into one another mindlessly like two uranium or radioactive atoms seeking to go Boom.
Boundaries are life savers. Literally, they are the stuff that allows us to be us without being too much for people.
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