Do you trust your instincts?
It’s the only thing one can trust with one’s life.
When you first meet someone, the first 10 seconds are crucial for deciding the box you will put them in.
Anything after that, any second guess are your blasted brain trying to rationalize your changing the designation arbitrarily to fit societal norms or circumstances.
No. Follow your nose, that is your mesenteric gut brain. This way you will never lose focus or fool yourself into loving someone you ought to stay away from or vice-versa.
Götterdämmerung 